What happens when you don’t trust yourself? You can make rash decisions, or poor decisions, and you may end up getting mad at yourself or criticizing your decision. Then what happens? That downward spiral of negative self talk, not feeling good about yourself or your choices, and the big one– not loving yourself happens.
How can you fix this or shift this downward spiral of not trusting yourself? First, give yourself time to breathe before making decisions. Most of us are usually in a rush, what’s the quick action so I can move on to the next thing? And we are becoming so trained to have an immediate response with the internet, texting, social media etc… We really forget to just slow down for a few moments and breathe. Your choices are important – they impact the quality of your life and your relationship with yourself.
Second, place a higher value on your quality of life. As you are giving yourself a few minutes to breathe before making a choice, you might realize you don’t know what you want to do. In that instance my motto is “do nothing.” Give yourself sometime to let more information and clarity come to you. Go do something else. It doesn’t take that long maybe an hour, or a few days depending on how involved the situation is you are considering, but the clarity always comes. This results in you making a decision you feel good about that improves the quality of your life.
Third, giving yourself this time and space improves the relationship with yourself. You will be making better decisions and you will feel better about yourself. Your confidence and self-esteem will grow—and best of all you will love yourself even more. That’s the goal – loving yourself even more and feeling full of your own self-love. That’s what creates healthy relationships. When each person loves themselves fully then there is not the expectation that “I need someone else to fill me up.” The relationship or partnership is a compliment to you. The adventure is exploring how it is you compliment each other! Enjoy!
Regina Sisco is a Relationship Wellness Expert and national internet Radio Show Host of Shining Bright on VoiceAmerica.com. For more information go to www.lifestreamholisticcoaching.com