Tips For Getting Out Of Your Comfort Zone

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Summer is the perfect time to let go of your standard life programming, meaning you may have gotten yourself into some habits or ruts that keep you safe and comfortable. I recommend that you stretch yourself and do things you may not normally do.  Lighten-up, have fun, and enjoy yourself!

Stepping out of your comfort zone can feel a little scary or uncomfortable. That’s ok it’s suppose to. Just take it one-step at a time. Here are some tips to get started.

1.  Be willing to experience the unexpected. When a friend invites you to do something– like a party with other people you may not know – say ‘yes!’ You never know who you are going to meet and connect with, or develop a new friendship.

  1. If you want to date let yourself feel self-assured and take off the pressure. Practice smiling to people – anywhere. In the grocery story, going for a walk, or at work. This simple process is uplifting for you and others. You’ll feel lighter and more joyful.
  1. Breathe in the goodness of you! Do some journaling about those things that you like about yourself. Your kind, generous, treat yourself and others respectfully etc.. . This will help you to maintain a positive mindset.
  1. If you are ready to date – be flirtatious! Allow yourself to have fun and not take dating seriously. Picture this as a “sampler” or taste-testing. See who’s out there. This will help you to determine what you like and what you don’t like about someone. No need for “serious”, just be delighted!
  1. Everyone is attractive in his or her own way, let your own light shine. Express yourself and relish the new experiences that you are creating.

Enjoy!
Regina

For The One I Love (here or on the way)

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Love_heartsHappy Valentine’s Day!

I wish you all love today! Those in relationship,  seeking a relationship or happily single.  Love starts with you by appreciating yourself, your gifts and talents, by choosing positive thoughts and expressing positive thoughts to yourself and others.   It takes real intention and focus to practice the positive.  You can do this by being kind to yourself and having compassion for yourself when you mess up.  It happens.  We don’t have to dwell on it – we can let go and forgive ourselves.  Practice compassion.

This holds true for how you treat your partner as well.  If you are seeking a partner by practicing these actions now for yourself you will automatically treat your new partner in that same respectful way.  Do you think that will be appreciated by this new person in your life? Absolutely! Lay the ground work now.  And will your current partner appreciate this – most definitely! Relationships are a work in progress and we can always make new choices.

I wanted to share a lovely poem/prayer by Marianne Williamson from her book Enchanted Love.

(for women) Dear God,

I pray today for the one I love. I pray to see her tenderness, I pray to see her innocence and I pray that she’ll see mine. I pray that she be surrounded by light, that your angels come and bless her. I pray that she’ll be happy and her heart be filled with love. I pray that I might be to her a man who honors and adores her. Her gladdened heart is joy to me.

Thank you God. Amen

(for men)

Dear God,

I pray today for the one I love. I pray to see his tenderness, I pray to see his innocence and I pray that he’ll see mine. I pray that he be surrounded by light, that your angels come and bless him. I pray that he’ll be happy and his heart be filled with love. I pray that I might be to him a woman who honors and adores him. His gladdened heart is joy to me. Thank you God. Amen

And I like to add  ” I love him/her.  And I love myself.”  And so it is.

This is the month of love, I’m sharing my love with others with joyful smiles where ever I go. How can you share your love with others?

Regina Sisco is a Spiritual Life Coach & Divine Matchmaker her website is www.reginasisco.com.  You can check out her Valentine’s intuitive reading special at http://lifestreamholisticcoaching.weebly.com/valentine.html. She is also the radio show host of Shining Bright on Voiceamerica.com. You can listen to her archived shows at http://www.voiceamerica.com/show/1986/shining-bright 

Are You Ready To Date?

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After a major break-up or divorce it takes time to heal and regain your equilibrium.  Many of my clients tell me that they want to be in a relationship again or be married again soon after the relationship has ended.  That’s a pleasant idea for down the road… but not too soon.

It’s important to give yourself time to heal and give yourself some perspective on what really happened.  He left you, you left him, and life goes on right? Yes it certainly does but what about the quality of your life?  What about the quality of your future relationship(s)?  That should matter to you.  We all know women and men who seem to hop from one relationship to the next without giving themselves time to assess—to really look at what worked and what didn’t work in the relationship.

We all have behavior patterns that are healthy and some that are not healthy at all, especially when it comes to relationships. Here are a few questions to reflect on:

–         Do you date the same type of person over and over?

–         How do you expect to be treated?

–         What do you want out of the relationship?

If you are ready for a committed relationship these things are important to consider.  What do you really want out of a relationship? Fun? Sex? Companionship?  Do you want commitment, intimacy, mutual support, respect and deep love?  If you do you have now just crossed over the line into work and commitment in the relationship to have that true divine union, trust, love, intimacy, and joy. It takes work, you have to know yourself and what you truly want in a relationship. It takes a mutual exchange and a mutual level of commitment – that give and take to support each other in your own individual growth and then as a couple.

The “knowing who you are and what you want” is critical. Women can sometimes loose themselves in the relationship and in their partner and no longer know who they are.  Before dating, be prepared– really to do your homework. There is nothing more important than your personal happiness!

 

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Wellness Expert and national internet Radio Show Host of Shining Bright on VoiceAmerica.com. For more information go to www.lifestreamholisticcoaching.com