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Are You Loveable? 4 Tips to Help You Feel Loveable – Part 4

womanleapinginairSee my previous blog

Here are some Relationship Indicators to let you know if you don’t feel loveable or deep down really don’t believe you deserve to be loved.

  1.  Do you feel insecure or needy when it comes to relationship? Do you hear yourself saying “I need someone to love me?” Or “Why am I still alone.”

Tip #4

Don’t be too hard on yourself if that is where your thoughts are in that particular moment. What could be some solutions to help you shift how you are feeling?

The feelings of neediness and insecurity come from unresolved issues of the past and any level of resolution that you can have with the past will be helpful.

If your needs were not met in a past relationship—and even with your parents, this lets you know that it is your job to meet your own needs, it’s not anyone else’s including a prospective partner. It’s your job to take care of yourself- physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially.

You can start meeting your needs by making decisions that feel good to you. Don’t just jump into things you really don’t want to do or that don’t feel good to you –especially to please someone else. I assure you that you are worthy of Love. And a real friend or partner will love you no matter what.

This is about you taking care of yourself. Practice things like self-kindness, positive self-talk, self-compassion. When you start paying attention and  making choices that feel good, your ‘neediness’ decreases because you are taking care of yourself. When you take care of yourself you are feeling better and better about you and your life. This also diminishes your insecurities because when you make good decisions it builds your self-confidence!

If you are alone right now- enjoy it. Nothing lasts forever, things always change and evolve.  The happier you are will allow you to attract a partner who is positive and happy too! Wouldn’t that feel fabulous?

 

 Regina Sisco is a certified Life & Relationship Coach. She is an expert with helping people transform their relationship suffering into self-acceptance and relationship bliss. Sign-up for my Free Gift! The Magic Touch – 5 Secrets To Successful Dating Tips on this page.

 

 

Are You Loveable? 4 Tips to Help You Feel Loveable – Part 3

forgiveSee my previous blog

Here are some Relationship Indicators to let you know if you don’t feel loveable or deep down really don’t believe you deserve to be loved.

  1.  When you feel the relationship is getting hard and communication is difficult for you, do you sabotage the relationship (have bad behavior like saying or doing something cruel) so the other person will end it?

Tip #3

There can be so much to say about Question 3. I have talked with several clients who have been on the receiving end of this behavior and those who have done it.

Someone who is unable to communicate how they feel is afraid, deeply afraid of being hurt. They are unable to take responsibility for their behavior and feelings, so they act out and force the other person to take the action. This person is in need of deep compassion. Not that I am suggesting that you stay with him/her, I would not recommend that at all. The healthiest thing is to end the relationship and move on.

If you are the person who is struggling, the better approach with integrity, is to end/exit the relationship without the hurtful words or behavior. Understand that you have deep seeded issues that are toxic. Bouncing from relationship to relationship is extremely unhealthy and you likely have the belief that you don’t deserve to be loved and you’re afraid of doing any type of self-reflection to heal so that you are able to raise your self-esteem, self-respect and self-confidence.

Without at least an average (and ideally above average) feeling of these three characteristics I listed above, connecting with another in a meaningful way and expressing healthy love will not be possible.

How can you start turning this around and allow yourself to be and feel loveable?

It is probable that you have had some hurtful experiences in the past that have not been healed. You may be blaming yourself, the other person or people, and you may feel shame. These are two very powerful feelings that reinforce low self-esteem and self-worth. Being able to forgive yourself and others is one of the most beneficial ways to free yourself from pain and suffering. When you are in that state of pain and suffering you can feel disconnected from your true self, which creates lack of clarity.

In the Hawaiian culture they have a technique called “Ho’oponopono” which they use to forgive and seek healing and freedom. Think of the person you were hurt by and repeat:

I’m Sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You, I Love You.

And you may be thinking, “Regina, I was hurt by that other person, why would I say I’m sorry.” Because this is a higher spiritual principle and there is probably something you want to be forgiven for also.

Repeat this phrase/mantra over and over again until you feel lighter.

“I’m Sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You, I Love You.”

If you have time to do it 10-15 minutes a day would be good. This may take several days, or weeks, it really depends on you and your focus. It does take focus and a willingness to be free of the pain and suffering. It works.

I will use this when I hear of something negative on the news to help shift the energy of that particular situation.

It’s time to free yourself and let yourself feel loved!

  

Regina Sisco is a certified Life & Relationship Coach. She is an expert with helping people transform their relationship suffering into self-acceptance and relationship bliss. Sign-up for my Free Gift! The Magic Touch – 5 Secrets To Successful Dating Tips on this page.

 

Are You Loveable? 4 Tips to Help You Feel Loveable – Part 1

LoveThis is a follow-up to my previous blog.

 

  1. Do you give your power away in relationships? Do you let the other person make most of the decisions? Do you trust your own decisions?

Tip #1:

Why do you and others give their power away in relationships? It’s usually because you don’t feel secure or confident with your own decisions. How do you change that? It’s about believing in yourself more. Take a few minutes and write down the accomplishments in your life, there will be several. You made good-even great decisions to reach that accomplishment, correct? Absolutely! So even though you may not feel confident sometimes in a relationship, do this exercise to re-build your confidence and let that carry over into your relationship.  I am sure you have made a good decisions in relationship too, it’s just that human nature tends to focus on the negative instead of the positive. Take your power back and focus on the positive and all you have to give and offer.

 Relationships are about respect, trust, love and compromise. It also takes you showing up and being an active participant in the relationship. It takes two people to make it work, are you ready to experience something different and magnificently better?

 

 

 

Regina Sisco is a certified Life & Relationship Coach. She is an expert with helping people transform their relationship suffering into self-acceptance and relationship bliss.

Are You Loveable? 4 Tips to Help You Feel Loveable

Here are some Relationship Indicators to let you know if you don’t feel loveable or deep down really don’t believe you deserve to be loved.

1. Do you give your poweholding handsr away in relationships? Do you let the other person make most of the decisions? Do you trust your own decisions?
2. Do you need to be in charge? Do you make all the arrangements? Do you ask for input from your partner? Or better still, do you dismiss the input from your partner?
3. When you feel the relationship is getting hard and communication is difficult for you, do you sabatoge the relationship (have bad behavior like saying or doing something cruel) so the other person will end it?
4. Do you feel insecure or needy when it comes to relationship? Do you hear yourself saying “I need someone to love me.” Or “Why am I still alone.”

During this month of Love in February I will be giving weekly tips to answer these four Relationship Indicators. Share your stories with me and I will provide advice directly to you on my blog.

Regina Sisco is a certified Life & Relationship Coach. She is an expert with helping people transform their relationship suffering into self-acceptance and relationship bliss. Regina can be reached at info@reginasisco.com.

 

February The Month Of Love 28 Days Of Divine Love Inspiration

heart background    We all know February is the month of Love. Yes it’s about romantic love and sharing that love with another. And it’s also about loving yourself, because if you don’t have a high level of self-love then you won’t have the amazing high quality relationship that you seek if you are single. If you are in a love relationship, this month is an excellent time to renew and rejuvenate your intimacy, communication, and how you treat each other. This month you can set  “the bar” that you hold your relationship up to all year.

I am so excited to share my Divine Love Inspiration with you this month.

 

Day One – Love Inspiration – Trusting Love

The foundation of every relationship is trust and it needs to be nurtured all the time. You need to develop trust for yourself everyday and if you are in a relationship or want to be in a relationship trust needs to be cultivated daily with your partner.

Why is that? Because most people have been hurt or betrayed somewhere in life, and yes this heals over time but the old wound can be triggered unknowingly at the blink of an eye. Trust provides reassurance when old fears come up. You’ve heard the phrase “actions speak louder than words.” To sustain and grow trust in a relationship your loving actions will show your partner how much you mean to them. And if you are single your loving actions to yourself reinforces your own self-love and self-trust and that is priceless!

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Coach and Divine Matchmaker™ who enjoys helping others bring more love into their lives. Her website is www.reginasisco.com and her email is info@reginasisco.com.

 

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For The One I Love (here or on the way)

Love_heartsHappy Valentine’s Day!

I wish you all love today! Those in relationship,  seeking a relationship or happily single.  Love starts with you by appreciating yourself, your gifts and talents, by choosing positive thoughts and expressing positive thoughts to yourself and others.   It takes real intention and focus to practice the positive.  You can do this by being kind to yourself and having compassion for yourself when you mess up.  It happens.  We don’t have to dwell on it – we can let go and forgive ourselves.  Practice compassion.

This holds true for how you treat your partner as well.  If you are seeking a partner by practicing these actions now for yourself you will automatically treat your new partner in that same respectful way.  Do you think that will be appreciated by this new person in your life? Absolutely! Lay the ground work now.  And will your current partner appreciate this – most definitely! Relationships are a work in progress and we can always make new choices.

I wanted to share a lovely poem/prayer by Marianne Williamson from her book Enchanted Love.

(for women) Dear God,

I pray today for the one I love. I pray to see her tenderness, I pray to see her innocence and I pray that she’ll see mine. I pray that she be surrounded by light, that your angels come and bless her. I pray that she’ll be happy and her heart be filled with love. I pray that I might be to her a man who honors and adores her. Her gladdened heart is joy to me.

Thank you God. Amen

(for men)

Dear God,

I pray today for the one I love. I pray to see his tenderness, I pray to see his innocence and I pray that he’ll see mine. I pray that he be surrounded by light, that your angels come and bless him. I pray that he’ll be happy and his heart be filled with love. I pray that I might be to him a woman who honors and adores him. His gladdened heart is joy to me. Thank you God. Amen

And I like to add  ” I love him/her.  And I love myself.”  And so it is.

This is the month of love, I’m sharing my love with others with joyful smiles where ever I go. How can you share your love with others?

Regina Sisco is a Spiritual Life Coach & Divine Matchmaker her website is www.reginasisco.com.  You can check out her Valentine’s intuitive reading special at http://lifestreamholisticcoaching.weebly.com/valentine.html. She is also the radio show host of Shining Bright on Voiceamerica.com. You can listen to her archived shows at http://www.voiceamerica.com/show/1986/shining-bright 

How To Prepare For A Conscious Relationship

What are the steps you need to take to move into a conscious relationship, a fifth dimensional relationship – a true divine relationship?  As we are leaving the third dimension it is time to release the confines of the ego and assist the ego and ourselves with embracing our divine I AM presence.  This process starts with preparing and transforming yourself first, then you can carry these traits and ways of being into a true divine relationship.

This will be an experiential workshop of deep work with our ego, our soul and our divine I AM presence.  We will be giving our ego a new role, one which supports our divine I AM presence, soul and you into the fifth dimension.

The result will be new miraculous levels of freedom in your life.  You will recognize the workings of the ego and now have the tools to maintain and support it’s transformation process through love and safety.  This opens the gateway to the fifth dimension of unconditional love and acceptance for yourself and others. Can you imagine loving yourself that fully and completely?  Then welcoming a partner into that space?  This is where a true divine relationship begins! This will also assist with improving current relationships too.

Check in with your own internal guidance about this workshop. You may not feel in alignment yet for this course.  Go within and ask.  This will be a beautiful transformational journey for us all.  I am actively in receipt of content for the workshop from my guides and the universe, and will be up to and including the day of the event!  Talk about hot off the press!  This will be cutting edge information I am receiving from the universe.

I look forward to sharing this heart space with you.
Many Blessings,
Regina Sisco

When:      October 26, 27 & 28, 2012
Friday:     Oct 26   Free Introduction 7:00pm -8:30pm
Saturday: Oct 27   Workshop 10:00am – 5:00pm
Sunday:   Oct 28   Private one-hour healing sessions with me


Where: Unity Church of Santa Barbara
227 E Arrellaga Street
Santa Barbara, CA 93101
805.966.2239
www.santabarbaraunity.org

Cost: Saturday Workshop $175
Sunday – Private one-hour
Healing session $150

Please contact Phyliss Cohen, Event Coordinator for Spiritual Enlightened Professionals –
805-708-8228,  phyliss3x3@yahoo.com for registration.

Regina Sisco is an expert in life coaching, personal and spiritual development, and alternative and energetic healing. A lifelong teacher, she leads classes and workshops in self-development. Regina is a practitioner of Theta Healing, a system of spiritual, physical, and emotional healing. As a Relationship Wellness Expert she specializes in working with women who are healing from divorce or relationship breakup. Her website is www.reginasisco.com. She is also the National Internet Radio Show Host of Shining Bright on VoiceAmerica.com. Regina has over 60,000 listeners per month and counting!  To listen to her show go to: http://www.voiceamerica.com/show/1986/shining-bright

Lack of Self-worth

Today I want to share a video with you on Self-Worth or really I mean lack of self-worth. Most every human has some feelings of not feeling good enough, worthy enough or deserving. It’s not the truth. This is our ego, who loves us and is trying to protect us in some way from being hurt. This however, keeps us separate from our infinite connection to the Creator where we are one and whole and tied to the entire universe. This separateness, which can feel like emptiness or longing, is our desire to truly believe we are connected to our higher selves and the Creator (or whatever term works for you). We want to be able to feel that unconditional love because we haven’t found it within ourselves yet. So we seek outside ourselves in a variety of relationships or hobbies. Look no further. Look in the mirror and love that precious being who is looking back at you with all your heart.  Do it every day and soon you will never feel alone or separate again. It is your job to love yourself fully.  If you don’t, how will anyone else?
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Regina Sisco is a Relationship Wellness Expert and national internet Radio Show Host of Shining Bright on VoiceAmerica.com. For more information go to her website atwww.reginasisco.com and to listen to her radio show go to http://www.voiceamerica.com/show/1986/shining-bright

Are You Ready To Date?

After a major break-up or divorce it takes time to heal and regain your equilibrium.  Many of my clients tell me that they want to be in a relationship again or be married again soon after the relationship has ended.  That’s a pleasant idea for down the road… but not too soon.

It’s important to give yourself time to heal and give yourself some perspective on what really happened.  He left you, you left him, and life goes on right? Yes it certainly does but what about the quality of your life?  What about the quality of your future relationship(s)?  That should matter to you.  We all know women and men who seem to hop from one relationship to the next without giving themselves time to assess—to really look at what worked and what didn’t work in the relationship.

We all have behavior patterns that are healthy and some that are not healthy at all, especially when it comes to relationships. Here are a few questions to reflect on:

-         Do you date the same type of person over and over?

-         How do you expect to be treated?

-         What do you want out of the relationship?

If you are ready for a committed relationship these things are important to consider.  What do you really want out of a relationship? Fun? Sex? Companionship?  Do you want commitment, intimacy, mutual support, respect and deep love?  If you do you have now just crossed over the line into work and commitment in the relationship to have that true divine union, trust, love, intimacy, and joy. It takes work, you have to know yourself and what you truly want in a relationship. It takes a mutual exchange and a mutual level of commitment – that give and take to support each other in your own individual growth and then as a couple.

The “knowing who you are and what you want” is critical. Women can sometimes loose themselves in the relationship and in their partner and no longer know who they are.  Before dating, be prepared– really to do your homework. There is nothing more important than your personal happiness!

 

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Wellness Expert and national internet Radio Show Host of Shining Bright on VoiceAmerica.com. For more information go to www.lifestreamholisticcoaching.com

Self-Respect

I have a client who wasn’t allowing herself to be treated respectfully in a relationship.  She thought she wasn’t good enough to have a man treat her well.  Since she didn’t value or respect herself, she sought men who treated her the same.  She became aware of her choices that she allowed men in, who in her words were “barely adequate.”  She realized that she viewed herself the same way and knew she had some inner work to do.

Why did she value herself so poorly?  She realized that the childhood abuse created many beliefs and programs that she wasn’t good enough or didn’t deserve much, and that’s how she began living her life. She didn’t deserve much, her own personal worth and value was low.  How did she begin to create the shift for herself?  She started letting go of the past by forgiving those in childhood and perhaps the tougher road of forgiving herself.

Then, I shared some techniques with her to help her release this old program of not valuing herself and to restore her self-esteem and self-respect.  She is fully aware now that her choices matter and that she matters.  When she settled based on past experiences she didn’t receive much.  Now as she is becoming more aware that she is not willing to settle with herself or in a relationship. She understands that she has more work to do.

She has a higher level of self-worth and wants to attract a better quality of life and men.  She respects herself more and sees that she is the driver and creator of her life. She is regaining her power and can now see the path before her.  She is reconnecting to her true self and beginning to allow self love in.

And take a deep breath- breathe that in-

Affirmations:  affirmations are positive statements to read and say outlook to help you maintain a positive outlook.

I know what it feels like to respect myself.  I am opening the door to self-love.

 

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Wellness Expert and national internet Radio Show Host of Shining Bright on VoiceAmerica.com. For more information go to www.lifestreamholisticcoaching.com