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Are You Ready To Date?

After a major break-up or divorce it takes time to heal and regain your equilibrium.  Many of my clients tell me that they want to be in a relationship again or be married again soon after the relationship has ended.  That’s a pleasant idea for down the road… but not too soon.

It’s important to give yourself time to heal and give yourself some perspective on what really happened.  He left you, you left him, and life goes on right? Yes it certainly does but what about the quality of your life?  What about the quality of your future relationship(s)?  That should matter to you.  We all know women and men who seem to hop from one relationship to the next without giving themselves time to assess—to really look at what worked and what didn’t work in the relationship.

We all have behavior patterns that are healthy and some that are not healthy at all, especially when it comes to relationships. Here are a few questions to reflect on:

-         Do you date the same type of person over and over?

-         How do you expect to be treated?

-         What do you want out of the relationship?

If you are ready for a committed relationship these things are important to consider.  What do you really want out of a relationship? Fun? Sex? Companionship?  Do you want commitment, intimacy, mutual support, respect and deep love?  If you do you have now just crossed over the line into work and commitment in the relationship to have that true divine union, trust, love, intimacy, and joy. It takes work, you have to know yourself and what you truly want in a relationship. It takes a mutual exchange and a mutual level of commitment – that give and take to support each other in your own individual growth and then as a couple.

The “knowing who you are and what you want” is critical. Women can sometimes loose themselves in the relationship and in their partner and no longer know who they are.  Before dating, be prepared– really to do your homework. There is nothing more important than your personal happiness!

 

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Wellness Expert and national internet Radio Show Host of Shining Bright on VoiceAmerica.com. For more information go to www.lifestreamholisticcoaching.com

Trusting Your Self

What’s the value of trusting yourself?  You trust your decisions, your confidence level is higher…what else?

What happens when you don’t trust yourself?  You can make rash decisions, or poor decisions, and you may end up getting mad at yourself or criticizing your decision.  Then what happens? That downward spiral of negative self talk, not feeling good about yourself or your choices, and the big one– not loving yourself happens.

How can you fix this or shift this downward spiral of not trusting yourself?  First, give yourself time to breathe before making decisions. Most of us are usually in a rush, what’s the quick action so I can move on to the next thing? And we are becoming so trained to have an immediate response with the internet, texting, social media etc…  We really forget to just slow down for a few moments and breathe.  Your choices are important – they impact the quality of your life and your relationship with yourself.

Second, place a higher value on your quality of life.  As you are giving yourself a few minutes to breathe before making a choice, you might realize you don’t know what you want to do. In that instance my motto is “do nothing.”  Give yourself sometime to let more information and clarity come to you. Go do something else. It doesn’t take that long maybe an hour, or a few days depending on how involved the situation is you are considering, but the clarity always comes. This results in you making a decision you feel good about that improves the quality of your life.

Third, giving yourself this time and space improves the relationship with yourself. You will be making better decisions and you will feel better about yourself.  Your confidence and self-esteem will grow—and best of all you will love yourself even more. That’s the goal – loving yourself even more and feeling full of your own self-love.  That’s what creates healthy relationships.  When each person loves themselves fully then there is not the expectation that “I need someone else to fill me up.”  The relationship or partnership is a compliment to you. The adventure is exploring how it is you compliment each other! Enjoy!

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Wellness Expert and national internet Radio Show Host of Shining Bright on VoiceAmerica.com. For more information go to www.lifestreamholisticcoaching.com