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Are You Loveable? 4 Tips to Help You Feel Loveable – Part 2

heart candlesSee my previous blog

Here are some Relationship Indicators to let you know if you don’t feel loveable or deep down really don’t believe you deserve to be loved.

  1. Do you need to be in charge? Do you make all the arrangements? Do you ask for input from your partner? Or better still, do you dismiss the input from your partner?

Tip #2

It’s all about love isn’t it? What does loving behavior look like to you? How is love communicated? How does it feel?

The questions above describe someone with a ‘controlling’ personality or at least a strong ‘controlling’ characteristic. Someone who has to know it all, have all the answers, tells others what to do without asking or getting input. You have met that type of person before, right? You may have even been married to one? If you are perfectly honest, you have had some of those behaviors yourself too. Some of the time it is normal:  most of us have a little of that.

However, when it is overpowering, it is out of balance and a less than ideal way of treating another person. It’s disrespectful and inconsiderate. Why do some people behave that way? The short answer is they don’t love themselves very much. They are insecure and full of self-doubt. The controlling behavior is a mask to feel ‘strong’ because inside he/she does not feel that way at all.

Here are few tips to help change this behavior if you have these. Start by being kind to yourself. What is it that you don’t like about yourself? You might ask ‘How do I know what that is?’ Here’s an example. You might know someone that drives you crazy. What is it about that person that drives you crazy? That trait is something you have within yourself that you don’t like about you. Here’s the good news — you can change it!

Maybe your friend doesn’t listen and talks over people. This drives you crazy. Pay attention- do you do that to people? The answer is probably yes, or you do something similar. If you don’t like being treated that way, then don’t treat someone else that way. Make a new choice — this will require some positive self-talk “I am going to be patient when listening to others.” “I am going to slow down and be present, I am interested in what this person is sharing with me.” “I intend to listen with an open mind and not be judgmental or critical.” This is how you create change for the better and how you can change the things that you don’t like about yourself. Make new choices about how you want to feel in your life. Treat yourself better as well as the people around you.

Ask questions in a relationship, have dialogue, and ask for input. Asking questions and communicating is not a weakness:  its called consideration. When you treat yourself in a loving way, you will treat others in a loving way and will be treated that way in return. Love isn’t about control, it’s about sharing. And isn’t that what you seek, sharing and intimacy on all levels?

 

Regina Sisco is a certified Life & Relationship Coach. She is an expert with helping people transform their relationship suffering into self-acceptance and relationship bliss. Sign-up for my Free Gift! The Magic Touch – 5 Secrets To Successful Dating Tips.

 

Day Fourteen – Love Inspiration – HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!

One of my favorite song’s is the Beatle’s tune is “All You Need Is Love.”

Which I thought was very fitting for today. Love yourself, your partner, friends and family….not just today – everyday!  We all need love everyday!

 


Regina Sisco is a Relationship Coach and Divine Matchmaker™ who enjoys helping others to release fear and bring more love into their lives. Her website is www.reginasisco.com and her email is info@reginasisco.com.

 

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Day Thirteen– Love Inspiration – Magical Love

couple laughingHave you ever experienced the state of magical love? All things flow easily, life is delightful, and our desires not only in love, come easily to us. How do you stay or maintain that state of magical love? Wouldn’t that be amazing if you could do that? Life would be really enjoyable. Because when you are in that state your vibration is higher. And what I mean by that is positive energy, love, joy etc… is lighter and when you move through life in that state it is easier.

One way to create that is to have a positive attitude and be grateful everyday for all the goodness in your life. Especially the little things that you might take for granted like a smile, someone making you laugh, or you making someone else laugh. It could be a kindness, your good health or the beautiful day.

If you are with a partner or want a partner, what would your relationship be like if you were in that state of magical delight? You would show-up as being light-hearted and not so serious or stressed. You could laugh at yourself and be amused when negative thoughts come in. Your energy would be contagious and others around you would change too. If you are seeking a relationship how wonderful would it be to draw a partner to you who could share in the same magical delight!

Life and love can be magical. Are you ready?

 

 Regina Sisco is a Relationship Coach and Divine Matchmaker™ who enjoys helping others to release fear and bring more love into their lives. Her website is www.reginasisco.com and her email is info@reginasisco.com.

 

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Day Twelve– Love Inspiration – Cultivating Love

candle flame 2How do you cultivate love and keep that spark alive? You nurture and feed it with kindness and adventure. If you are in a long-term relationship or want to be in one, keeping the excitement and mystery alive is key! So how do you do that? You keep learning and growing as an individual. That keeps you interesting to your partner. It’s easy for any of us to become stagnant and fall into our routines. When you recognize that take action – don’t wait. If you’re bored in your relationship what can you do to change it?

Here are a few tips:

1. Talk to your partner about how you are feeling and engage him/her – brainstorm new ideas and activities that will keep you both interested and you will enjoy.  Find an interest that you both like to share that experience together. Maybe it’s photography or improv! Be willing to move out of your comfort zone.

2.  Don’t blame your partner for not doing enough or not spending enough time with you. It’s ok to talk about it and come up with engaging or thrilling solutions.  Is it time for a weekend getaway, or go to a concert?  Make it something special you haven’t done in a while or even something brand new.

3.  Commit to a monthly date night and build to a weekly date night.

Love matures with time but you don’t want the spark to go out and to do that it needs to be cultivated. Keep the flame alive, burning bigger and brighter and hotter and hotter!
 

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Coach and Divine Matchmaker™ who enjoys helping others to release fear and bring more love into their lives. Her website is www.reginasisco.com and her email is info@reginasisco.com.

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Day Eleven– Love Inspiration – Sharing & Caring Love

couple walking on beachIsn’t it amazing that we get to share our life with someone or spend time in a relationship? It’s such a gift and a tremendous growth opportunity. Many people are under the illusion that marriage and relationships are all blissful and easy with no conflict! Just the opposite – they are about growth, understanding, and healing the past – they provide the opportunity for each of us to show up, as better people.

We get to share who we are, what makes us laugh, cry, sing and those things that just drop us to our knees. These experiences open our hearts to deeper caring for ourselves and our partners. It opens us up to deeper love and compassion. It spreads our wings and so that we can fly and expand. It’s so beautiful. That’s why we are here; to learn, grow and expand.

Can this deeper level of sharing in relationships be challenging? Of course. They are designed to bring out the best of you and your partner. It’s the ability to hold a sacred space for each other when old layers of the past are released.

The process of relationships allows your heart to grow, so that you can experience greater love and joy. Life is a journey and your love is too!

 

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Coach and Divine Matchmaker™ who enjoys helping others to release fear and bring more love into their lives. Her website is www.reginasisco.com and her email is info@reginasisco.com.

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Day Ten– Love Inspiration – Self-Appreciation

gift of youWhat does it feel like when you appreciate yourself? It feels pretty amazing doesn’t it?  Absolutely! I want to remind you to appreciate yourself everyday. Even if it’s for some thing small.  Maybe you crossed something off your to do list, or helped out a friend.

Your day can buzz by so fast that you can take the good things in life for granted. Our life is made up of small moments. Holding the door open for someone, or saying ‘thank-you’ to someone else. People really appreciate these kind gestures. I know I do, how about you?

Today is the day to acknowledge yourself and your goodness – celebrate the gift of who you are! You provide so much to others and yourself. There are many things that happen behind the scenes in which you aren’t aware. For example, when you hold the door open for someone, that person appreciates the gesture and holds the door open for the next person and so on. You may have heard of the acts of loving kindness, how it grows and grows.

Do you see how one small gesture can spread love in the world, just by you being thoughtful and kind? Appreciate you! What special act of kindness will you reward yourself with this week? Make it extra special –this is a self-love gift just for you!

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Coach and Divine Matchmaker™ who enjoys helping others to release fear and bring more love into their lives. Her website is www.reginasisco.com and her email is info@reginasisco.com.

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Day Nine– Love Inspiration – Compassionate Love

holding handsDo you have compassion for yourself? Do you have compassion for others? It’s often easier to have compassion for others than it is ourselves isn’t it? Sometimes our self-critic can really be on a roll with negative self-talk. It’s up to us to stop the negative talk and choose something that feels good like compassion.

Compassion is sweet, tender and forgiving. It’s a way to give ourselves a break and let us off the hook. It’s a way to ease up on others; it breaks the hold of anger and opens the doorway to resolution.  We all mess-up sometime and say or do the wrong thing. Most of the time we don’t mean it we just reacted without thinking or connecting to our hearts first.

This is where compassion can come into play. It helps us to forgive ourselves and to forgive others.  It eases the hurt. It’s like the ‘free pass’ card to allow grace into any challenging situation. Compassion allows us to see the innocence in another and the innocence in ourselves.

 

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Coach and Divine Matchmaker™ who enjoys helping others to release fear and bring more love into their lives. Her website is www.reginasisco.com and her email is info@reginasisco.com.

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Day Eight– Love Inspiration – Valuable Love

heart candlesSometimes we take love for granted. We forget to show it and appreciate it. This is a little reminder to love yourself and value all the love in your life. Who are the people that mean the most to you? Have you talked to them recently? Maybe it’s time to pick up the phone and talk to them. And I do mean pick up the phone so there is a personal connection. Not by email or text…this is about valuing love and the ability to give and receive love in a personal way.

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, how about sending a card to someone you love. Family, friends… anyone you appreciate. Valuing those we love is priceless. Our personal possessions are nice but have little value when it comes to genuine connection with another–aA hug, a kiss, holding hands or a conversation.

Who will you reach out and touch today and the coming weeks?

 

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Coach and Divine Matchmaker™ who enjoys helping others to release fear and bring more love into their lives. Her website is www.reginasisco.com and her email is info@reginasisco.com.

 

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Day Seven– Love Inspiration – Standing in Love

group jumping for joyDo you know how to connect to your heart and feel the love in your heart? Put your hands over your heart and feel your heart beat. Close your eyes. Imagine all the love you have for your family and friends. Imagine all the love they have for you. Feel it. Bask in the love. Do this every time you are feeling down or stressed. If stressed, take several slow deep breaths in and out first.

Imagine how wonderful your day would flow if you stepped into this place of love. You could breathe love in and out and set an intention like this: “I am standing in the space of love today for myself and others.” This could become your morning routine. Imagine sending love to everyone you meet throughout your day. Not only would it change how your day flows, it would change everyone else’s too!

Stand in Love today!

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Coach and Divine Matchmaker™ who enjoys helping others to release fear and bring more love into their lives. Her website is www.reginasisco.com and her email is info@reginasisco.com.

 

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Day Six– Love Inspiration Beauty & Love

heartTake a moment and imagine something beautiful. What is that for you? It may be child laughing, a pristine waterfall, or someone helping an elderly person. I want to describe beauty and what it means to me, and maybe it’s the same for you? Beauty is whatever makes my heart sing, it may move me to tears – in someway it moves my heart. Anything that moves my heart to open is love.

If I see something that moves me to tears then I know something in my heart and my past is being healed and released. If something makes me laugh, I feel the joy in my heart—this is love that is expanding in my heart.  Even our perceived challenges have a lining of beauty because we are letting something go from the past that didn’t feel good and we no longer need it. That is a victory and most beautiful – and another form of love.

I have pets – cats and they are delightful. They have very unique personalities and are quite entertaining. They make me laugh, provide comfort and have so much love. Think about where and how beauty shows up in your life and how that transforms to love! How grateful I am for all the beauty that surrounds us!

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Coach and Divine Matchmaker™ who enjoys helping others to release fear and bring more love into their lives. Her website is www.reginasisco.com and her email is info@reginasisco.com.

 

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