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Are You Loveable? 4 Tips to Help You Feel Loveable – Part 1

LoveThis is a follow-up to my previous blog.

 

  1. Do you give your power away in relationships? Do you let the other person make most of the decisions? Do you trust your own decisions?

Tip #1:

Why do you and others give their power away in relationships? It’s usually because you don’t feel secure or confident with your own decisions. How do you change that? It’s about believing in yourself more. Take a few minutes and write down the accomplishments in your life, there will be several. You made good-even great decisions to reach that accomplishment, correct? Absolutely! So even though you may not feel confident sometimes in a relationship, do this exercise to re-build your confidence and let that carry over into your relationship.  I am sure you have made a good decisions in relationship too, it’s just that human nature tends to focus on the negative instead of the positive. Take your power back and focus on the positive and all you have to give and offer.

 Relationships are about respect, trust, love and compromise. It also takes you showing up and being an active participant in the relationship. It takes two people to make it work, are you ready to experience something different and magnificently better?

 

 

 

Regina Sisco is a certified Life & Relationship Coach. She is an expert with helping people transform their relationship suffering into self-acceptance and relationship bliss.

Are You Loveable? 4 Tips to Help You Feel Loveable

Here are some Relationship Indicators to let you know if you don’t feel loveable or deep down really don’t believe you deserve to be loved.

1. Do you give your poweholding handsr away in relationships? Do you let the other person make most of the decisions? Do you trust your own decisions?
2. Do you need to be in charge? Do you make all the arrangements? Do you ask for input from your partner? Or better still, do you dismiss the input from your partner?
3. When you feel the relationship is getting hard and communication is difficult for you, do you sabatoge the relationship (have bad behavior like saying or doing something cruel) so the other person will end it?
4. Do you feel insecure or needy when it comes to relationship? Do you hear yourself saying “I need someone to love me.” Or “Why am I still alone.”

During this month of Love in February I will be giving weekly tips to answer these four Relationship Indicators. Share your stories with me and I will provide advice directly to you on my blog.

Regina Sisco is a certified Life & Relationship Coach. She is an expert with helping people transform their relationship suffering into self-acceptance and relationship bliss. Regina can be reached at info@reginasisco.com.

 

Being in the Presence of Love?

I_love_all_that_I_am copyDo you know what being in the presence of love feels like? It feels like honor, trust and surety. You are with a person you can rely on, someone who supports you no matter what is happening. Your partner doesn’t always have to agree with you, or even fully understand your position on something but knowing he/she is always there for you is the presence of love.

It’s a gift knowing you can have someone who shines their light for you and you for them. No one has to be right or wrong, it can be just what is – an experience in this moment in time when you or your partner are growing or releasing some old pattern that is no longer useful.

Being in the presence of love is holding the space of love for your partner and yourself – which may be a bit more challenging. The presence and space of love is no judgment or guilt or doubt. It is a space where all things are possible. Imagine what this feels like — a safe space for love.

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Coach and Divine Matchmaker™ who enjoys helping others to release fear and bring more love into their lives. Her website is www.reginasisco.com and her email is info@reginasisco.com.

 

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For The One I Love (here or on the way)

Love_heartsHappy Valentine’s Day!

I wish you all love today! Those in relationship,  seeking a relationship or happily single.  Love starts with you by appreciating yourself, your gifts and talents, by choosing positive thoughts and expressing positive thoughts to yourself and others.   It takes real intention and focus to practice the positive.  You can do this by being kind to yourself and having compassion for yourself when you mess up.  It happens.  We don’t have to dwell on it – we can let go and forgive ourselves.  Practice compassion.

This holds true for how you treat your partner as well.  If you are seeking a partner by practicing these actions now for yourself you will automatically treat your new partner in that same respectful way.  Do you think that will be appreciated by this new person in your life? Absolutely! Lay the ground work now.  And will your current partner appreciate this – most definitely! Relationships are a work in progress and we can always make new choices.

I wanted to share a lovely poem/prayer by Marianne Williamson from her book Enchanted Love.

(for women) Dear God,

I pray today for the one I love. I pray to see her tenderness, I pray to see her innocence and I pray that she’ll see mine. I pray that she be surrounded by light, that your angels come and bless her. I pray that she’ll be happy and her heart be filled with love. I pray that I might be to her a man who honors and adores her. Her gladdened heart is joy to me.

Thank you God. Amen

(for men)

Dear God,

I pray today for the one I love. I pray to see his tenderness, I pray to see his innocence and I pray that he’ll see mine. I pray that he be surrounded by light, that your angels come and bless him. I pray that he’ll be happy and his heart be filled with love. I pray that I might be to him a woman who honors and adores him. His gladdened heart is joy to me. Thank you God. Amen

And I like to add  ” I love him/her.  And I love myself.”  And so it is.

This is the month of love, I’m sharing my love with others with joyful smiles where ever I go. How can you share your love with others?

Regina Sisco is a Spiritual Life Coach & Divine Matchmaker her website is www.reginasisco.com.  You can check out her Valentine’s intuitive reading special at http://lifestreamholisticcoaching.weebly.com/valentine.html. She is also the radio show host of Shining Bright on Voiceamerica.com. You can listen to her archived shows at http://www.voiceamerica.com/show/1986/shining-bright 

Are You Ready To Date?

After a major break-up or divorce it takes time to heal and regain your equilibrium.  Many of my clients tell me that they want to be in a relationship again or be married again soon after the relationship has ended.  That’s a pleasant idea for down the road… but not too soon.

It’s important to give yourself time to heal and give yourself some perspective on what really happened.  He left you, you left him, and life goes on right? Yes it certainly does but what about the quality of your life?  What about the quality of your future relationship(s)?  That should matter to you.  We all know women and men who seem to hop from one relationship to the next without giving themselves time to assess—to really look at what worked and what didn’t work in the relationship.

We all have behavior patterns that are healthy and some that are not healthy at all, especially when it comes to relationships. Here are a few questions to reflect on:

-         Do you date the same type of person over and over?

-         How do you expect to be treated?

-         What do you want out of the relationship?

If you are ready for a committed relationship these things are important to consider.  What do you really want out of a relationship? Fun? Sex? Companionship?  Do you want commitment, intimacy, mutual support, respect and deep love?  If you do you have now just crossed over the line into work and commitment in the relationship to have that true divine union, trust, love, intimacy, and joy. It takes work, you have to know yourself and what you truly want in a relationship. It takes a mutual exchange and a mutual level of commitment – that give and take to support each other in your own individual growth and then as a couple.

The “knowing who you are and what you want” is critical. Women can sometimes loose themselves in the relationship and in their partner and no longer know who they are.  Before dating, be prepared– really to do your homework. There is nothing more important than your personal happiness!

 

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Wellness Expert and national internet Radio Show Host of Shining Bright on VoiceAmerica.com. For more information go to www.lifestreamholisticcoaching.com

Trusting Your Self

What’s the value of trusting yourself?  You trust your decisions, your confidence level is higher…what else?

What happens when you don’t trust yourself?  You can make rash decisions, or poor decisions, and you may end up getting mad at yourself or criticizing your decision.  Then what happens? That downward spiral of negative self talk, not feeling good about yourself or your choices, and the big one– not loving yourself happens.

How can you fix this or shift this downward spiral of not trusting yourself?  First, give yourself time to breathe before making decisions. Most of us are usually in a rush, what’s the quick action so I can move on to the next thing? And we are becoming so trained to have an immediate response with the internet, texting, social media etc…  We really forget to just slow down for a few moments and breathe.  Your choices are important – they impact the quality of your life and your relationship with yourself.

Second, place a higher value on your quality of life.  As you are giving yourself a few minutes to breathe before making a choice, you might realize you don’t know what you want to do. In that instance my motto is “do nothing.”  Give yourself sometime to let more information and clarity come to you. Go do something else. It doesn’t take that long maybe an hour, or a few days depending on how involved the situation is you are considering, but the clarity always comes. This results in you making a decision you feel good about that improves the quality of your life.

Third, giving yourself this time and space improves the relationship with yourself. You will be making better decisions and you will feel better about yourself.  Your confidence and self-esteem will grow—and best of all you will love yourself even more. That’s the goal – loving yourself even more and feeling full of your own self-love.  That’s what creates healthy relationships.  When each person loves themselves fully then there is not the expectation that “I need someone else to fill me up.”  The relationship or partnership is a compliment to you. The adventure is exploring how it is you compliment each other! Enjoy!

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Wellness Expert and national internet Radio Show Host of Shining Bright on VoiceAmerica.com. For more information go to www.lifestreamholisticcoaching.com