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Are You Loveable? 4 Tips to Help You Feel Loveable – Part 4

womanleapinginairSee my previous blog

Here are some Relationship Indicators to let you know if you don’t feel loveable or deep down really don’t believe you deserve to be loved.

  1.  Do you feel insecure or needy when it comes to relationship? Do you hear yourself saying “I need someone to love me?” Or “Why am I still alone.”

Tip #4

Don’t be too hard on yourself if that is where your thoughts are in that particular moment. What could be some solutions to help you shift how you are feeling?

The feelings of neediness and insecurity come from unresolved issues of the past and any level of resolution that you can have with the past will be helpful.

If your needs were not met in a past relationship—and even with your parents, this lets you know that it is your job to meet your own needs, it’s not anyone else’s including a prospective partner. It’s your job to take care of yourself- physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially.

You can start meeting your needs by making decisions that feel good to you. Don’t just jump into things you really don’t want to do or that don’t feel good to you –especially to please someone else. I assure you that you are worthy of Love. And a real friend or partner will love you no matter what.

This is about you taking care of yourself. Practice things like self-kindness, positive self-talk, self-compassion. When you start paying attention and  making choices that feel good, your ‘neediness’ decreases because you are taking care of yourself. When you take care of yourself you are feeling better and better about you and your life. This also diminishes your insecurities because when you make good decisions it builds your self-confidence!

If you are alone right now- enjoy it. Nothing lasts forever, things always change and evolve.  The happier you are will allow you to attract a partner who is positive and happy too! Wouldn’t that feel fabulous?

 

 Regina Sisco is a certified Life & Relationship Coach. She is an expert with helping people transform their relationship suffering into self-acceptance and relationship bliss. Sign-up for my Free Gift! The Magic Touch – 5 Secrets To Successful Dating Tips on this page.

 

 

Are You Loveable? 4 Tips to Help You Feel Loveable – Part 2

heart candlesSee my previous blog

Here are some Relationship Indicators to let you know if you don’t feel loveable or deep down really don’t believe you deserve to be loved.

  1. Do you need to be in charge? Do you make all the arrangements? Do you ask for input from your partner? Or better still, do you dismiss the input from your partner?

Tip #2

It’s all about love isn’t it? What does loving behavior look like to you? How is love communicated? How does it feel?

The questions above describe someone with a ‘controlling’ personality or at least a strong ‘controlling’ characteristic. Someone who has to know it all, have all the answers, tells others what to do without asking or getting input. You have met that type of person before, right? You may have even been married to one? If you are perfectly honest, you have had some of those behaviors yourself too. Some of the time it is normal:  most of us have a little of that.

However, when it is overpowering, it is out of balance and a less than ideal way of treating another person. It’s disrespectful and inconsiderate. Why do some people behave that way? The short answer is they don’t love themselves very much. They are insecure and full of self-doubt. The controlling behavior is a mask to feel ‘strong’ because inside he/she does not feel that way at all.

Here are few tips to help change this behavior if you have these. Start by being kind to yourself. What is it that you don’t like about yourself? You might ask ‘How do I know what that is?’ Here’s an example. You might know someone that drives you crazy. What is it about that person that drives you crazy? That trait is something you have within yourself that you don’t like about you. Here’s the good news — you can change it!

Maybe your friend doesn’t listen and talks over people. This drives you crazy. Pay attention- do you do that to people? The answer is probably yes, or you do something similar. If you don’t like being treated that way, then don’t treat someone else that way. Make a new choice — this will require some positive self-talk “I am going to be patient when listening to others.” “I am going to slow down and be present, I am interested in what this person is sharing with me.” “I intend to listen with an open mind and not be judgmental or critical.” This is how you create change for the better and how you can change the things that you don’t like about yourself. Make new choices about how you want to feel in your life. Treat yourself better as well as the people around you.

Ask questions in a relationship, have dialogue, and ask for input. Asking questions and communicating is not a weakness:  its called consideration. When you treat yourself in a loving way, you will treat others in a loving way and will be treated that way in return. Love isn’t about control, it’s about sharing. And isn’t that what you seek, sharing and intimacy on all levels?

 

Regina Sisco is a certified Life & Relationship Coach. She is an expert with helping people transform their relationship suffering into self-acceptance and relationship bliss. Sign-up for my Free Gift! The Magic Touch – 5 Secrets To Successful Dating Tips.

 

Being in the Presence of Love?

I_love_all_that_I_am copyDo you know what being in the presence of love feels like? It feels like honor, trust and surety. You are with a person you can rely on, someone who supports you no matter what is happening. Your partner doesn’t always have to agree with you, or even fully understand your position on something but knowing he/she is always there for you is the presence of love.

It’s a gift knowing you can have someone who shines their light for you and you for them. No one has to be right or wrong, it can be just what is – an experience in this moment in time when you or your partner are growing or releasing some old pattern that is no longer useful.

Being in the presence of love is holding the space of love for your partner and yourself – which may be a bit more challenging. The presence and space of love is no judgment or guilt or doubt. It is a space where all things are possible. Imagine what this feels like — a safe space for love.

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Coach and Divine Matchmaker™ who enjoys helping others to release fear and bring more love into their lives. Her website is www.reginasisco.com and her email is info@reginasisco.com.

 

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Is Tenderness The Same As Intimacy?

love kissDo you know how to express tenderness in a relationship? Is tenderness the same as intimacy? Let’s say they go hand in hand. It’s letting yourself feel vulnerable and connected to your partner and with yourself. I know many women and men who do not like to feel vulnerable. It’s not safe, they feel too open and in the past when they have cared that much they were hurt and the wound was deep.

Does that mean you will never let yourself be vulnerable again or allow yourself to share an intimate tender moment with a partner? I certainly hope not because you are cutting yourself off from love – from giving and receiving love. You wouldn’t want to miss that tender touch, that brush of his or her lips across your neck, the melting of stress and the “yes” to love would you?

I hope your response is of course not! Life is to short not to experience the joys, the tenderness and the surprises of love. Saying yes to love takes courage and a commitment to your personal happiness.

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Coach and Divine Matchmaker™ who enjoys helping others to release fear and bring more love into their lives. Her website is www.reginasisco.com and her email is info@reginasisco.com.

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February The Month Of Love 28 Days Of Divine Love Inspiration

heart background    We all know February is the month of Love. Yes it’s about romantic love and sharing that love with another. And it’s also about loving yourself, because if you don’t have a high level of self-love then you won’t have the amazing high quality relationship that you seek if you are single. If you are in a love relationship, this month is an excellent time to renew and rejuvenate your intimacy, communication, and how you treat each other. This month you can set  “the bar” that you hold your relationship up to all year.

I am so excited to share my Divine Love Inspiration with you this month.

 

Day One – Love Inspiration – Trusting Love

The foundation of every relationship is trust and it needs to be nurtured all the time. You need to develop trust for yourself everyday and if you are in a relationship or want to be in a relationship trust needs to be cultivated daily with your partner.

Why is that? Because most people have been hurt or betrayed somewhere in life, and yes this heals over time but the old wound can be triggered unknowingly at the blink of an eye. Trust provides reassurance when old fears come up. You’ve heard the phrase “actions speak louder than words.” To sustain and grow trust in a relationship your loving actions will show your partner how much you mean to them. And if you are single your loving actions to yourself reinforces your own self-love and self-trust and that is priceless!

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Coach and Divine Matchmaker™ who enjoys helping others bring more love into their lives. Her website is www.reginasisco.com and her email is info@reginasisco.com.

 

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Tips For Getting Out Of Your Comfort Zone

Summer is the perfect time to let go of your standard life programming, meaning you may have gotten yourself into some habits or ruts that keep you safe and comfortable. I recommend that you stretch yourself and do things you may not normally do.  Lighten-up, have fun, and enjoy yourself!

Stepping out of your comfort zone can feel a little scary or uncomfortable. That’s ok it’s suppose to. Just take it one-step at a time. Here are some tips to get started.

1.  Be willing to experience the unexpected. When a friend invites you to do something– like a party with other people you may not know – say ‘yes!’ You never know who you are going to meet and connect with, or develop a new friendship.

  1. If you want to date let yourself feel self-assured and take off the pressure. Practice smiling to people – anywhere. In the grocery story, going for a walk, or at work. This simple process is uplifting for you and others. You’ll feel lighter and more joyful.
  1. Breathe in the goodness of you! Do some journaling about those things that you like about yourself. Your kind, generous, treat yourself and others respectfully etc.. . This will help you to maintain a positive mindset.
  1. If you are ready to date – be flirtatious! Allow yourself to have fun and not take dating seriously. Picture this as a “sampler” or taste-testing. See who’s out there. This will help you to determine what you like and what you don’t like about someone. No need for “serious”, just be delighted!
  1. Everyone is attractive in his or her own way, let your own light shine. Express yourself and relish the new experiences that you are creating.

Enjoy!
Regina

For The One I Love (here or on the way)

Love_heartsHappy Valentine’s Day!

I wish you all love today! Those in relationship,  seeking a relationship or happily single.  Love starts with you by appreciating yourself, your gifts and talents, by choosing positive thoughts and expressing positive thoughts to yourself and others.   It takes real intention and focus to practice the positive.  You can do this by being kind to yourself and having compassion for yourself when you mess up.  It happens.  We don’t have to dwell on it – we can let go and forgive ourselves.  Practice compassion.

This holds true for how you treat your partner as well.  If you are seeking a partner by practicing these actions now for yourself you will automatically treat your new partner in that same respectful way.  Do you think that will be appreciated by this new person in your life? Absolutely! Lay the ground work now.  And will your current partner appreciate this – most definitely! Relationships are a work in progress and we can always make new choices.

I wanted to share a lovely poem/prayer by Marianne Williamson from her book Enchanted Love.

(for women) Dear God,

I pray today for the one I love. I pray to see her tenderness, I pray to see her innocence and I pray that she’ll see mine. I pray that she be surrounded by light, that your angels come and bless her. I pray that she’ll be happy and her heart be filled with love. I pray that I might be to her a man who honors and adores her. Her gladdened heart is joy to me.

Thank you God. Amen

(for men)

Dear God,

I pray today for the one I love. I pray to see his tenderness, I pray to see his innocence and I pray that he’ll see mine. I pray that he be surrounded by light, that your angels come and bless him. I pray that he’ll be happy and his heart be filled with love. I pray that I might be to him a woman who honors and adores him. His gladdened heart is joy to me. Thank you God. Amen

And I like to add  ” I love him/her.  And I love myself.”  And so it is.

This is the month of love, I’m sharing my love with others with joyful smiles where ever I go. How can you share your love with others?

Regina Sisco is a Spiritual Life Coach & Divine Matchmaker her website is www.reginasisco.com.  You can check out her Valentine’s intuitive reading special at http://lifestreamholisticcoaching.weebly.com/valentine.html. She is also the radio show host of Shining Bright on Voiceamerica.com. You can listen to her archived shows at http://www.voiceamerica.com/show/1986/shining-bright