Category Archives: Healthy Relationships

Are You Loveable? 4 Tips to Help You Feel Loveable – Part 3

forgiveSee my previous blog

Here are some Relationship Indicators to let you know if you don’t feel loveable or deep down really don’t believe you deserve to be loved.

  1.  When you feel the relationship is getting hard and communication is difficult for you, do you sabotage the relationship (have bad behavior like saying or doing something cruel) so the other person will end it?

Tip #3

There can be so much to say about Question 3. I have talked with several clients who have been on the receiving end of this behavior and those who have done it.

Someone who is unable to communicate how they feel is afraid, deeply afraid of being hurt. They are unable to take responsibility for their behavior and feelings, so they act out and force the other person to take the action. This person is in need of deep compassion. Not that I am suggesting that you stay with him/her, I would not recommend that at all. The healthiest thing is to end the relationship and move on.

If you are the person who is struggling, the better approach with integrity, is to end/exit the relationship without the hurtful words or behavior. Understand that you have deep seeded issues that are toxic. Bouncing from relationship to relationship is extremely unhealthy and you likely have the belief that you don’t deserve to be loved and you’re afraid of doing any type of self-reflection to heal so that you are able to raise your self-esteem, self-respect and self-confidence.

Without at least an average (and ideally above average) feeling of these three characteristics I listed above, connecting with another in a meaningful way and expressing healthy love will not be possible.

How can you start turning this around and allow yourself to be and feel loveable?

It is probable that you have had some hurtful experiences in the past that have not been healed. You may be blaming yourself, the other person or people, and you may feel shame. These are two very powerful feelings that reinforce low self-esteem and self-worth. Being able to forgive yourself and others is one of the most beneficial ways to free yourself from pain and suffering. When you are in that state of pain and suffering you can feel disconnected from your true self, which creates lack of clarity.

In the Hawaiian culture they have a technique called “Ho’oponopono” which they use to forgive and seek healing and freedom. Think of the person you were hurt by and repeat:

I’m Sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You, I Love You.

And you may be thinking, “Regina, I was hurt by that other person, why would I say I’m sorry.” Because this is a higher spiritual principle and there is probably something you want to be forgiven for also.

Repeat this phrase/mantra over and over again until you feel lighter.

“I’m Sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You, I Love You.”

If you have time to do it 10-15 minutes a day would be good. This may take several days, or weeks, it really depends on you and your focus. It does take focus and a willingness to be free of the pain and suffering. It works.

I will use this when I hear of something negative on the news to help shift the energy of that particular situation.

It’s time to free yourself and let yourself feel loved!

  

Regina Sisco is a certified Life & Relationship Coach. She is an expert with helping people transform their relationship suffering into self-acceptance and relationship bliss. Sign-up for my Free Gift! The Magic Touch – 5 Secrets To Successful Dating Tips on this page.

 

Are You Loveable? 4 Tips to Help You Feel Loveable – Part 2

heart candlesSee my previous blog

Here are some Relationship Indicators to let you know if you don’t feel loveable or deep down really don’t believe you deserve to be loved.

  1. Do you need to be in charge? Do you make all the arrangements? Do you ask for input from your partner? Or better still, do you dismiss the input from your partner?

Tip #2

It’s all about love isn’t it? What does loving behavior look like to you? How is love communicated? How does it feel?

The questions above describe someone with a ‘controlling’ personality or at least a strong ‘controlling’ characteristic. Someone who has to know it all, have all the answers, tells others what to do without asking or getting input. You have met that type of person before, right? You may have even been married to one? If you are perfectly honest, you have had some of those behaviors yourself too. Some of the time it is normal:  most of us have a little of that.

However, when it is overpowering, it is out of balance and a less than ideal way of treating another person. It’s disrespectful and inconsiderate. Why do some people behave that way? The short answer is they don’t love themselves very much. They are insecure and full of self-doubt. The controlling behavior is a mask to feel ‘strong’ because inside he/she does not feel that way at all.

Here are few tips to help change this behavior if you have these. Start by being kind to yourself. What is it that you don’t like about yourself? You might ask ‘How do I know what that is?’ Here’s an example. You might know someone that drives you crazy. What is it about that person that drives you crazy? That trait is something you have within yourself that you don’t like about you. Here’s the good news — you can change it!

Maybe your friend doesn’t listen and talks over people. This drives you crazy. Pay attention- do you do that to people? The answer is probably yes, or you do something similar. If you don’t like being treated that way, then don’t treat someone else that way. Make a new choice — this will require some positive self-talk “I am going to be patient when listening to others.” “I am going to slow down and be present, I am interested in what this person is sharing with me.” “I intend to listen with an open mind and not be judgmental or critical.” This is how you create change for the better and how you can change the things that you don’t like about yourself. Make new choices about how you want to feel in your life. Treat yourself better as well as the people around you.

Ask questions in a relationship, have dialogue, and ask for input. Asking questions and communicating is not a weakness:  its called consideration. When you treat yourself in a loving way, you will treat others in a loving way and will be treated that way in return. Love isn’t about control, it’s about sharing. And isn’t that what you seek, sharing and intimacy on all levels?

 

Regina Sisco is a certified Life & Relationship Coach. She is an expert with helping people transform their relationship suffering into self-acceptance and relationship bliss. Sign-up for my Free Gift! The Magic Touch – 5 Secrets To Successful Dating Tips.

 

Are You Loveable? 4 Tips to Help You Feel Loveable – Part 1

LoveThis is a follow-up to my previous blog.

 

  1. Do you give your power away in relationships? Do you let the other person make most of the decisions? Do you trust your own decisions?

Tip #1:

Why do you and others give their power away in relationships? It’s usually because you don’t feel secure or confident with your own decisions. How do you change that? It’s about believing in yourself more. Take a few minutes and write down the accomplishments in your life, there will be several. You made good-even great decisions to reach that accomplishment, correct? Absolutely! So even though you may not feel confident sometimes in a relationship, do this exercise to re-build your confidence and let that carry over into your relationship.  I am sure you have made a good decisions in relationship too, it’s just that human nature tends to focus on the negative instead of the positive. Take your power back and focus on the positive and all you have to give and offer.

 Relationships are about respect, trust, love and compromise. It also takes you showing up and being an active participant in the relationship. It takes two people to make it work, are you ready to experience something different and magnificently better?

 

 

 

Regina Sisco is a certified Life & Relationship Coach. She is an expert with helping people transform their relationship suffering into self-acceptance and relationship bliss.

Are You Loveable? 4 Tips to Help You Feel Loveable

Here are some Relationship Indicators to let you know if you don’t feel loveable or deep down really don’t believe you deserve to be loved.

1. Do you give your poweholding handsr away in relationships? Do you let the other person make most of the decisions? Do you trust your own decisions?
2. Do you need to be in charge? Do you make all the arrangements? Do you ask for input from your partner? Or better still, do you dismiss the input from your partner?
3. When you feel the relationship is getting hard and communication is difficult for you, do you sabatoge the relationship (have bad behavior like saying or doing something cruel) so the other person will end it?
4. Do you feel insecure or needy when it comes to relationship? Do you hear yourself saying “I need someone to love me.” Or “Why am I still alone.”

During this month of Love in February I will be giving weekly tips to answer these four Relationship Indicators. Share your stories with me and I will provide advice directly to you on my blog.

Regina Sisco is a certified Life & Relationship Coach. She is an expert with helping people transform their relationship suffering into self-acceptance and relationship bliss. Regina can be reached at info@reginasisco.com.

 

Being in the Presence of Love?

I_love_all_that_I_am copyDo you know what being in the presence of love feels like? It feels like honor, trust and surety. You are with a person you can rely on, someone who supports you no matter what is happening. Your partner doesn’t always have to agree with you, or even fully understand your position on something but knowing he/she is always there for you is the presence of love.

It’s a gift knowing you can have someone who shines their light for you and you for them. No one has to be right or wrong, it can be just what is – an experience in this moment in time when you or your partner are growing or releasing some old pattern that is no longer useful.

Being in the presence of love is holding the space of love for your partner and yourself – which may be a bit more challenging. The presence and space of love is no judgment or guilt or doubt. It is a space where all things are possible. Imagine what this feels like — a safe space for love.

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Coach and Divine Matchmaker™ who enjoys helping others to release fear and bring more love into their lives. Her website is www.reginasisco.com and her email is info@reginasisco.com.

 

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Is Tenderness The Same As Intimacy?

love kissDo you know how to express tenderness in a relationship? Is tenderness the same as intimacy? Let’s say they go hand in hand. It’s letting yourself feel vulnerable and connected to your partner and with yourself. I know many women and men who do not like to feel vulnerable. It’s not safe, they feel too open and in the past when they have cared that much they were hurt and the wound was deep.

Does that mean you will never let yourself be vulnerable again or allow yourself to share an intimate tender moment with a partner? I certainly hope not because you are cutting yourself off from love – from giving and receiving love. You wouldn’t want to miss that tender touch, that brush of his or her lips across your neck, the melting of stress and the “yes” to love would you?

I hope your response is of course not! Life is to short not to experience the joys, the tenderness and the surprises of love. Saying yes to love takes courage and a commitment to your personal happiness.

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Coach and Divine Matchmaker™ who enjoys helping others to release fear and bring more love into their lives. Her website is www.reginasisco.com and her email is info@reginasisco.com.

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February The Month Of Love 28 Days Of Divine Love Inspiration

heart background    We all know February is the month of Love. Yes it’s about romantic love and sharing that love with another. And it’s also about loving yourself, because if you don’t have a high level of self-love then you won’t have the amazing high quality relationship that you seek if you are single. If you are in a love relationship, this month is an excellent time to renew and rejuvenate your intimacy, communication, and how you treat each other. This month you can set  “the bar” that you hold your relationship up to all year.

I am so excited to share my Divine Love Inspiration with you this month.

 

Day One – Love Inspiration – Trusting Love

The foundation of every relationship is trust and it needs to be nurtured all the time. You need to develop trust for yourself everyday and if you are in a relationship or want to be in a relationship trust needs to be cultivated daily with your partner.

Why is that? Because most people have been hurt or betrayed somewhere in life, and yes this heals over time but the old wound can be triggered unknowingly at the blink of an eye. Trust provides reassurance when old fears come up. You’ve heard the phrase “actions speak louder than words.” To sustain and grow trust in a relationship your loving actions will show your partner how much you mean to them. And if you are single your loving actions to yourself reinforces your own self-love and self-trust and that is priceless!

Regina Sisco is a Relationship Coach and Divine Matchmaker™ who enjoys helping others bring more love into their lives. Her website is www.reginasisco.com and her email is info@reginasisco.com.

 

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Fall Tune-Up Special – Improve Your Personal Relationships


Could your “little habits” be eliminating your chances for a second date?

  • Are you always late?
  • Do you interrupt your date when he or she is talking?
  • Do you go on and on a  about past relationships that didn’t work?

Then maybe it’s time for a “Personal Relationship Tune-Up! ”  The holidays and the New Year are right around the corner. If you want to meet someone new this season, put your best foot forward – there’s no time to lose!

My Special 30-Day Fall Tune-Up Offer Includes:

  • Free 30 minute coaching session to identify habits you’d like change and improve in our coaching sessions.
  • Three one-hour coaching sessions by phone to get rid of those BAD habits!
  • Learn how to make new choices to overcome your old habits.
  • Receive tips to practice that will reinforce your new choices.
  • Weekly motivational messages to keep you focused and on track.

As a result you will:

  • Feel better about yourself
  • Speak and act more confident
  • Treat yourself better and your new friends will too!

This fantastic Fall Tune-up offer is only $297! Act fast this offer is only good until 10-31. You must be enrolled in the program by the end of October to take advantage of this great opportunity because the holidays are almost here!

Let this season be the one where you have that special someone to enjoy the Colorado outdoors, go to parties with and watch the Broncos remain undefeated! Register for this Fall Tune-Up here

For The One I Love (here or on the way)

Love_heartsHappy Valentine’s Day!

I wish you all love today! Those in relationship,  seeking a relationship or happily single.  Love starts with you by appreciating yourself, your gifts and talents, by choosing positive thoughts and expressing positive thoughts to yourself and others.   It takes real intention and focus to practice the positive.  You can do this by being kind to yourself and having compassion for yourself when you mess up.  It happens.  We don’t have to dwell on it – we can let go and forgive ourselves.  Practice compassion.

This holds true for how you treat your partner as well.  If you are seeking a partner by practicing these actions now for yourself you will automatically treat your new partner in that same respectful way.  Do you think that will be appreciated by this new person in your life? Absolutely! Lay the ground work now.  And will your current partner appreciate this – most definitely! Relationships are a work in progress and we can always make new choices.

I wanted to share a lovely poem/prayer by Marianne Williamson from her book Enchanted Love.

(for women) Dear God,

I pray today for the one I love. I pray to see her tenderness, I pray to see her innocence and I pray that she’ll see mine. I pray that she be surrounded by light, that your angels come and bless her. I pray that she’ll be happy and her heart be filled with love. I pray that I might be to her a man who honors and adores her. Her gladdened heart is joy to me.

Thank you God. Amen

(for men)

Dear God,

I pray today for the one I love. I pray to see his tenderness, I pray to see his innocence and I pray that he’ll see mine. I pray that he be surrounded by light, that your angels come and bless him. I pray that he’ll be happy and his heart be filled with love. I pray that I might be to him a woman who honors and adores him. His gladdened heart is joy to me. Thank you God. Amen

And I like to add  ” I love him/her.  And I love myself.”  And so it is.

This is the month of love, I’m sharing my love with others with joyful smiles where ever I go. How can you share your love with others?

Regina Sisco is a Spiritual Life Coach & Divine Matchmaker her website is www.reginasisco.com.  You can check out her Valentine’s intuitive reading special at http://lifestreamholisticcoaching.weebly.com/valentine.html. She is also the radio show host of Shining Bright on Voiceamerica.com. You can listen to her archived shows at http://www.voiceamerica.com/show/1986/shining-bright 

Getting Ready For Love -How To Bring Love In Teleclass

Cathleen McCandless (author of the number one Feng Shui book in America - Feng Shui That Takes Sense) and I are doing a workshop/teleclass called Getting Ready For Love – How to Bring Love in. I will share tips to clear away old emotional baggage and Cathleen will share tips to clear away old physical items and clutter,  that will help to bring love in. You will walk away with useful tips to use immediately to bring love in. Join us Tuesday October 16, 2012 from 6-8pm pacific time. Cost – wow – only $97!! Register NOW!!!

Tuesday evening October 16, 2012, from 6 –8 pm pacific time.  Cathleen has been a guest on her radio show- Shining Bright on VoiceAmerica.com several times and has the #1 Feng Shui book – Feng Shui that Makes Sense, in America.

Regina will be sharing tips and tools to do some internal housekeeping like getting rid of old habits and fears so you can allow love in.  And Cathleen will talk about feng shui tips and techniques for the home and bedroom that will bring love to you. How much fun will that be! This class will also have tips for those who are ready to enhance your current relationship.

Here is what we will cover:
Regina will  share tips and discuss:
Are you really ready for love?
Time to forgive past hurts
Moving forward – opening your heart

Cathleen will share tips and discuss: 
Setting the stage for love
Enhancing the relationship sector of the home
Space clearing to welcome love into you home and into your life.

What you will take away from this class are tools that you can use right away – a technique to forgive yourself and past hurts, new agreements  for yourself to create clarity in your (new) relationship, feng shui tips to enhance your renewed willingness for love in your home and bedroom!

Mark your calendars  for 
Tuesday evening October 16, 2012
 From 6-8pm pacific time7-9pm mountain time, 9-11pm eastern time

To register make payment of $97.00
Click on the Buy Now Paypal button below and an email confirmation will be sent to you with the call-in information. Send any questions to Regina at info@reginasisco.com, type “feng shui” in the subject line and she will answer your questions.

You’ll also receive a Free recording of the call to keep and listen to these valuable tips again and again!

If you aren’t able to attend this class but would like to receive the inspiring information, register for the class and a recording will be sent to you!

Register here – save the date for October 16

Only $97 for valuable tools and tips you can implement right away to bring love in! How exciting is that?!!  Register now.