Do you like who you are?  Do you like how you look?  Are you smart enough or good enough?  Most of us have pretty tough self-critics.  Our self-critic is that voice in your head that is usually telling you what you are doing wrong.  Like “Are you really going to where that?”  How does that make you feel?  Not very good right?


So how do we quiet our self-critic?  We do this by accepting ourselves and loving ourselves.  We also do this by being willing to make a new choice.  If there is something we don’t like about ourselves we have a choice to change it or simply accept it as it is for now.  Most women I know don’t like something about them selves.  Let’s say someone is a little overweight.  They beat themselves up for not exercising, or eating better etc…


A way to change from the negative to the positive is by making a new choice.  In this scenario the new choice is I no longer want to beat myself up. Instead of the self-critic, the self-accepter shows up and sounds like this:


I choose to feel good about myself.

I will feel good about myself by taking a new action to change.

I choose to go for a 20-minute walk three times a week.

I choose to have healthy snacks in the house instead of junk food.

I accept who I am and who I want to become.

I feel good about my new choices and me.


The more we can accept ourselves in any given moment, the more we will love ourselves too. Self-loves inspires us to our best, confident self.




Regina Sisco is a Relationship Wellness Expert and national internet Radio Show Host of Shining Bright on For more information go to

Self-doubt Is Being Our Own Worst Enemy

Do you believe that you can have a divine relationship?  What would a divine relationship look like?  Would a divine relationship include compatibility, trust, intimacy, sex, emotional wellness, and abundance?  Yes, to all of that and more.  However, many women doubt themselves when it comes to relationships. Women have told me that they don’t feel good enough; there must be something wrong with them because they keep attracting the wrong guy or partner.  Then the self-recrimination starts, “I’m not tall enough.” Or “I need to loose weight.”  And we know how the list can go on and on.

Self-doubt is being our own worst enemy. It’s human nature to be negative, it’s often our first response to most things. Crazy right? This is because of years of training and programming that comes from school, family and friends, and because this is how mass consciousness works. It’s each individual’s job to start breaking this self-doubt pattern and start by making some new choices.

Instead of criticizing yourself when something goes wrong, make a new choice. Learn from the experience and choose to do something different the next time creating a positive outcome. This creates self-confidence versus self-doubt. When things turn out well, praise yourself for a great outcome.  Especially when it comes to relationships—we all have been hurt in the past and we don’t want to get hurt again. We protect ourselves. Protection goes two ways we stay protected but we also keep true love out, and never fully give ourselves the chance to experience a divine relationship.